Top-Notch Interviewing: How to Avoid Appearing Too Desperate

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The process of applying for jobs can be so taxing that at the end of a long day of searching, it’s pretty common to just collapse from exhaustion. With so much work involved in the process, it’s no wonder that some candidates can get a little desperate. If you feel you are in a position of desperation as you search for jobs, you don’t want this to be obvious if you are called in for an interview. So before you go in for the next one, let’s explore some ways that you can saturate your interview with self-confidence. Don’t Show Up Too Early This may seem like a strange request, but research shows that hiring managers don’t care for the job candidate who shows up for an interview an hour early. While you’re thinking that you’re showing your interest in the job, you’re actually showing the hiring manager that you’re a little desperate – or worse, don’t respect him enough to show up at the time allotted. Think about it; the hiring manager is probably a busy person with other meetings and candidates to interview. If you show up too early, he will feel obligated to work with you despite the meeting time you set up. This may not fair well for you in the long run. So to avoid this desperate interviewing behavior costing you the job, it’s better to not announce yourself until 10 minutes prior to the interview time. Try Not to Mention Your Personal Hardships Another act that shows a bit of desperation on the job candidate’s end is mentioning personal hardships in the middle of the interview. For instance, if the hiring manager asks you “Why do you want this job?” it may be tempting to tell about how you were laid off, lost your house, and now desperately need food to put on the table. It’s actually a very compelling story and one that should probably be shared with the correct party. However, that party is most likely not going to be the hiring manager. Another way to answer this question is to refrain from focusing on the negatives of the experience. While you can share that you were laid off, you can also share how you’ve grown from the experience and feel that a difficult situation such as this has left you in a great place to contribute even more now that you’re stronger. In other words, you can use this opportunity to be even more upbeat and show your resilience. End With a Firm Handshake While you want to showcase that you are happy to have been granted the interview, you also want to display confidence. And believe it or not, a sign of weakness for many lies in the handshake. If it is weak, you may too seem weak. However, if you end with a firm handshake and feel comfortable looking into the interviewer’s eyes, you will appear much more confident than you think. It’s not always easy to avoid feeling desperate when you don’t know where your next paycheck is coming from. But if you can swallow your anxiety for an hour or so while interviewing, you may alleviate the stress of the job search permanently by becoming once again employed.
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  • Nancy Alcalde
    Nancy Alcalde
    I'd like to share an interview expirience I recently had. I arrived 3 minutes before my scheduled time. Met with the VP for an Admin position assisting the VP and other Sales team members. The interview went very well. I also met with the CEO, HR manager and fellow staff members. In total it was a two hour interview. I felt confident that I would be the one otherwise why would I meet so many and be there that long. I was asked to call back the following Monday. I did and received no response. I sent an email that Wednesday in which I was told they had not made a decision yet. Followed up again the following Monday, still no response. In essence, two weeks went by with no response. It's seems pretty obvious that I did not get the job, however, I would of appreciated a solid answer either way. Lesson: a good interview does not guarantee you the position your applying for.
  • Cathy W
    Cathy W
    Thank you for this article.  What I am finding out is this. Companies are holding onto your resume and will contact you even if it is close to 2 - 3 months down the road. I have been told that I am overqualified over and over again yet I am still Positive in my job search and willing to start out at the bottom of the ladder working my way up if needed. Don't give up, when the time is right it will happen!  I have found my ideal position yet waiting to hear if I am hired.   
  • Amy Chesterson
    Amy Chesterson
    Thanks for the useful info.
  • Steven Sklivas
    Steven Sklivas
    I recently had an interview with a prominent pharmaceutical company. On several occasions the "Director Of Distributions" mentioned that I was what he was looking for, "your maturity and skill set is perfect for the position", and "I need someone who is not afraid to make a decision." When asked about Continious Improvement, I replied and he was shaking his head and again said this is what I need! I'm telling myself I nailed this one. I left confident and secure that this was the one. Later that week I received an e-mail indicating that they were impressed with my experience and achievements but have decided not to go with my canditure. However they would like to keep my CV on file.
  • Kim Johnson
    Kim Johnson
    Yes this was a very helpful article, but I must say I am getting very frustrated and downright depressed by the constant let down after even interviewing for so many job/career positions! I have had a couple of interviews after putting out maybe more than 100 resumes recently. After the interview I feel confident about everything, I ask all of the right questions, I watch my posture, I am the constant professional. I am starting to feel inadequate, like I'm just not good enough anymore, and I have all the education you would think one would need. I put on a face of confidence throughout the interview purposely, but inside I know I really have doubts that it will go anywhere beyond the actual interview. Is there some kind of counseling for those of us who have been on this constant job hunt? Or is everyone just dealing with let downs the best way they know how? I don't want to cry anymore about it. I just want to get it! A job that is!Peace and Prosperity
  • Ingrid Phillips
    Ingrid Phillips
    This is good advice and comments, I have an interview with coming up and this article helped. Good luck people.
  • Manuel Vera
    Manuel Vera
    Great article. Will help in my upcoming interview this week. Thanks.
  • Tamika Cope
    Tamika Cope
    I recently went on a three part two day interviewing process.  After the second interview I asked the Administrator when they hoped to make a decision and I was told that they decided to open the application pool and that a lot of people are interested in working for this company and that gives them the ability to pick the crem de la crem. I never got a time frame as to when they were going to make a decision.  It's been two months from the time I inquired about the position to the of the actual interview and still no answer.  I feel my calls are being dodged.  I just want to know if the position has been filled or not. Is that too much to ask!
  • Kris Gabril
    Kris Gabril
    This is important information, that I previously applied. I think my personal problem is the "do not seem desperate". It so happens that my interviews last several hours (4-8!), and I meet anywhere from 5 to 13 (!) people, and I also have to do a 45' presentation; it is really difficult not to slip in a "desperate" comment.
  • Charlotte Williams
    Charlotte Williams
    Patrick Boyd,  I've experienced that recently & turns out there was negative, incorrect info on my background check. Often employers will not contact you to tell you they were later turned off by something on your resume or background check. I suggest, if you don't already, know what potential employers see about you.
  • Matthew Swagler
    Matthew Swagler
    I agree with this article. I showed up 20 minutes early for my last interview, only because I didn't realize exactly how long it was actually going to take to get to my appointment. Double check the distance to your interview, and always count on traffic problems.
  • Mary Schwartz
    Mary Schwartz
    Thank you for the very interesting information.  I will try it on my next interview.  
  • Paul Ebelhack
    Paul Ebelhack
    I'm sure we've all had strange interviews.  Last year I interviewed with an international auto aftermarket company from 9:00 AM to 12:15 PM for a Senior Credit Analyst.  We ended the meeting all ready for an offer.  Three days later I was told a friend of the Asst Manager lost her job and they gave MY position to her!  Be prepared for anything these days.
  • Sean Willson
    Sean Willson
    For Patrick; I would assume from the status change on their website that your resume has been zero filed. This is unfortunate but common. In this situation it is best, I have found, to just move on and let it go. Dwelling on previous attempts at employment does no one any good. It just leads to brooding and eventually depression and the attitude of, "Why bother even looking?" Best of luck to you in your search. Keep your chin up.
  • Henrietta
    Henrietta
    Excellent advice.
  • Malefo Mapula
    Malefo Mapula
    Thanks, I have a hope your advice will work for me.
  • Puma Shoes
    Puma Shoes
    Thank you for getting the time to article this. You nailed it in the head by stating that the a win-win scenario for any firm is when a customer’s wants are met.
  • Patrick Boyd
    Patrick Boyd
    I did a telephone interview with a major retailers' recruiter.  She started off by telling me that this position wasn't really in her portfolio and someone else would be forwarding any information to the company.  I thought this was strange.  I answered all of the questions with enthusiasm.  At the end of the interview, which only lasted 6 or 7 minutes, she said "It sounds like you have everything the company is looking for."  She told me that someone would be getting back to me soon about the next steps in the interview process.  About a week later after hearing nothing, I looked on their web site where my status, to my surprise, changed from "being interviewed" to "no longer being considered."  What would you folks do in this situation?  I can't get anybody at the company to return my calls.  HELP!  
  • Della
    Della
    For Kathleen Hughes; yes you are correct when you say a "strange interview"... however, be lucky that you are not working for someone as unprofessional as that. Also, I want to share my experience. I recently went to a local Job Fair and as I introduced myself and asked if they had any open positions in my field (HR), the person replied "You mean you want my job"....I was so shocked at such an unprofessional reply. The same day as I was asking another company (at the job fair) if they had any open position in my field, the person replied" No, I'm not planning on going anywhere anytime soon"! I could not believe what I was hearing from these so called Recruiters or professionals. Still I am positive, because I know I am much more professional then they are. Good luck to all.
  • Wanda Lee
    Wanda Lee
    The article and comments are extremely helpful during this downfall in our economy.  I would like to share a similar experience and would appreciate your feedback.  I took an early buy-out as an Executive and was offered a position as Program Specialist at Lake City Community College. I went for the first interview and was contacted to report to the Director and Vice President for the second.  The interviews went well according the feedback and two weeks later I was informed that the pool wasn’t large enough and my information would remain on file.  I have several degrees and my previous staff was 1,500 employees and I was responsible for the entire infrastructure.   
  • Donna Nehme
    Donna Nehme
    Your suggestions for interviewing are right on target.One question I have is how do you take a person that is interviewing you who cannot look you in the eye directly?  I have had this to happen on a couple of interviews particularly from men.  I was very professional and dressed appropriately so I don't know what the problem was.
  • Amy
    Amy
    For Kathleen Hughes:  I am so sorry that you had to go through that (dealing with an unprofessional, and you wasting your time) but that is what's happening now. I went on a interview with Saperstein and Associates.  After I arrived the female I interviewed with told me "We really can cross train one of our people we have now."  "I just wanted to meet you to make sure you didn't have two heads."  Companies are playing games and wasting people's time because they know that a lot of people are out of work and they can do things like that and get away with it.
  • Steve Mazzella
    Steve Mazzella
    Kathleen:It's too hard to try and interpret that situation, and know what was really going on with her. It's unfortunate, but consider yourself very lucky. If this is how they act and treat potential employees during the hiring process, imagine what it might be like actually working there. You were given all the info you need about them as a potential employer and can now make an informed decision NOT to pursue them.
  • Michael Sinon
    Michael Sinon
    Thank you for this article! I am actually going on an interview at 12:00 today. I have been out of work for a year now. I have over 20 years experience as an Executive Chef, but still it has been difficult finding employment. I am going to use this article as a tool to get this job! Thanks again!
  • Danielle
    Danielle
    I have a question related to desperation and the chances of getting a job.  I have been told by some that being employed while looking and interviewing for another job is seen as a strength and makes one look better.  I began applying for jobs 9 months ago, while employed and got very few interviews.  I have since quit my job due to a horrible boss that I could not tolerate any longer after the 9 months and although I have not secured a job yet, I have had more interviews scheduled since I now show that I am no longer employed.  Any thoughts?

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